Saturday, September 19, 2009

Don't Forget To Write

Justify FullI don't know where to start with this. Everything feels out of balance. Having been busy of late with off-line life and family doings, I've pretty much neglected giving more than cursory attention to on-line "families of the heart." Upon finally checking back in yesterday, there was a notify e-mail that took me to Jo's Journal. What I read there was not unexpected but, as we all know, we are never really ready to see a loved one slip out of here ahead of us. Jo, I miss you already.

A lot of folks are saying that very thing right now, those of us who were given the gift of her warmth and humor and sheer love of life. When Jo extended her friendship, she was nothing if not generous. Jo had many good qualities but I'm in awe of her courage. In spite of all too much physical misery, she never stopped living her life as fully as she could for as long as she could. Part of the reason she could do that, I know, was because of the devotion of her husband and best friend, Bill, who signs his comments here as "The Old Guy." If you click over to his "Cud Chewing" blog, you can read more about Jo.

This muddle we call Life being what it is, it seems there is always something you find yourself wishing you'd done or said while your friend was still alive. I had written to Jo because a long silence from her was beginning to worry me. And she responded with a nice long letter. And I didn't write back. Lord knows, I meant to. It was never far from my mind. I can list a hundred reasons for that neglect but not one single damned excuse. Well, there simply isn't any, is there. A huge regret, to be sure, but no excuse. So I'm just saying, if you have someone in your life who might need a line or two from you, try not to put it off. We just never know how much time is left so don't forget to write.

10 comments:

Wilma said...

Amen

John Bailey said...

Another amen here.

bonnie said...

If only our kids even thought of giving us a hello. They don't even see us aging, and certainly no consideration some day we may not be there. So sometimes only online friends are left. I'm sorry I didn't get to know Jo.

The Old Guy said...

Hello, from Bill.

After realizing that trying to write directly to those whose comment address shows up as no_reply@blogspot.com, I decided to put my thanks and thoughts on the comments section of The Old Guy link above. But for all those writing here, may I say how much I appreciate your kind thoughts.

The cats haven't figured out what's wrong, but there's no question that they are missing her, as I am. Rather than sitting around sleeping and licking myself, however, I'm working on a DVD of home movies compiled from the many hours that Jo herself took and/or starred in. I have never heard so much good-natured laughter in any such production.

kate et jim said...

I'll add my amen here also.

Bill - I'm so sorry for your loss. Jo sounds as if she was a very special and beautiful person. I, too, am sorry I didn't get to know her.

Maggie said...

Thanks so much dear Coffee Bean Friend. And Bill, I too am so sorry about your lost.

~ Sil in Corea said...

Thank you, Dee, for your tribute to Jo. Bill, my widow's heart understands your loss and grieves with you.

I'm getting better about answering letters and e-mails. This sure is a wake-up call.

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